Roommate myths

How moving in with friends can work

Leaving your roommie unexpected words of encouragement to help her get through the day is just one way to show your friendship. 

Photo Credit: Jessica Lin

Everyone has heard the rumor that living with a close friend will ruin a friendship, but that doesn’t have to be the case. It may take effort, but it is worth the work.

Junior Victoria Bellamy lived with a close friend last year whom she met freshman year. Bellamy was positive going into her roommate situation, knowing that she would be willing to talk through any problems they might have, and excited to spend more time with her friend. She enjoyed living with her friend because she got to know her better and meet more friends through her.

Bellamy and her friend were able to maintain a good relationship by keeping in contact and asking each other if they were OK with what the other person was doing. Bellamy said that the only thing they needed to improve on was to clean more because they kept it pretty cluttered. “That maybe made us more annoyed,” Belamy said.

Freshman roommates Brodi Amos and Maxwell Newton have known each other since theseventh grade. When they decided to live together in college, both worried that their friendship would be negatively impacted. “Throughout high school we didn’t always see eye-to-eye,” said Newton.

“Although I didn’t expect us to have a bad experience, I was ready for the worst,” said Amos.

After an entire semester sharing a room in Jester, both have found their living experience to be a positive one. They both expressed that they have become better friends with one another. They have maintained a good relationship by giving each other space when necessary, talking often and joking with one another.

“In a situation where other roommates might escalate a silly argument into something much more serious, we definitely just try to remember that most of the time if we have a problem it’s over something that isn’t really that big of a deal,” Amos said.

When asked to give advice to those who are deciding to live with a close friend, each person responded in a different way. Bellamy’s advice was to compare living styles before deciding to live together. “Talk to each other beforehand to make sure you’re on the same page with all the things you have to do to be a roommate,” Bellamy said.

Newton said to choose someone who you are good friends with, but you can still get to know better instead of your best friend. “Choosing someone you know and may have not fully developed a friendship with is important because it allows you to expand past your comfort zone.” Newton said. “You discover common interests that you may not have realized you had prior to your experience.”

Amos said to remember in moments of frustration why you decided to live with that person in the first place. “Always try to remember that your friendship with this person is so much more important than whether or not they forget to pick up that dirty sock off of the floor,” Amos said.

Though living with a friend requires effort, it is not impossible, and it may even lead to a stronger friendships.